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POT LUCK GATHERING MULAWFAC88 AT FRIM ON 18TH OCT 2008

DEAR FRIENDS,

THE IRON LADIES OF MULAWFAC88 ARE ORGANISING A POT LUCK GATHERING AT FRIM ON 18TH OCTOBER 2008.

THOSE WHO MISSED THE REUNION DINNER ON 30TH AUGUST ARE ENCOURAGE TO MEET THEM THERE.

WE WOULD LOVE TO SEE ALL OF OUR FRIENDS AGAIN

OMAR BAKHI AHMAD

OM OR OMBAK

Why do men take second wives?

A WRITER'S LIFE

By DINA ZAMAN

Polygamy has nothing to do with culture or religion. Men, and women too, cheat because they can.

WHEN a male friend told me he planned on taking a second wife, all I could do was try not to choke on dinner. Are you serious, I asked. He said yes, he had fallen in love with a single mother, but it was not his fate to marry her.

Thinking it was perhaps due her compassion, her earnest desire to bring up her sprogs in a Godly way and that life was indeed a struggle, I choked on my dessert when my friend told me the first thing he noticed about her was that she owned a great set of jugs.

Now, my friend takes his religious obligations very seriously. His first wife wears the hijab. So to hear him admit that it was his paramour’s cleavage that caught his heart was quite shocking.

It was due to women like me, whose so-called Western, secular and feminist ideas of polygamy that pushed it underground. I then asked him, whether his equally-pious wife agreed to him taking on another wife, and he said no. She gave him an earful.

But our friend was on a roll. Now that his journey into polygamy was thwarted, it was all our fault. We modern Malay women, be they religious or not, were forcing men like him to marry in Thailand or Iran, where they practised nikah Muta’ah.

He was emulating the steps of our good Prophet Mohamed, he argued.

“You have got your Islamic history upside down! Nabi married war widows, and his first wife was older than he. Aishah was the youngest. And I don’t think our Prophet married any woman because she had great breasts!”

“You don’t understand.”

“Okay then. Why don’t you sell your car and take a camel to work then?”

I’m realistic. I know men who adore their wives and love them to bits, but they can still love their mistresses and other wives. Am I condoning affairs and polygamy? No. But this happens. It has nothing to do with Islam or being Malay, though polygamy is part of the culture.

We’re Asians. We have a long history of concubinage. There are good men who are faithful, and there are good men who have other wives. There are also bad men who are faithful and also bad men who are unfaithful.

Just like our politics, love in Malaysia is a circus. Weeee!

I’m not going to bore you with what polygamy in Islam is about, as it has been written before and talked about to death. Women’s rights activists have long fought for this “crime” to be illegal, but we face a tough fight. Sometimes it’s not the men who are itching for it, but yes, our gender, too.

In the 80s, when I was young and clueless, meeting mistresses and second or third wives would be sinful and against my principles.

These days? “Oh, you’re a mistress?” “Oh, you’re a hidden wife?” Yawn. Wear tudung or mini skirt, got. Educated or stupid, got. Some of our mothers are The Other Women, and are good mothers. So how?

Is this phenomenon particular to our culture? Oh no. Read the British newspapers. Mistressing is talked about to death in feminist columns.

But I thought after that dinner with my friend, I’d revisit the issue again. Some of the findings from my five-sen survey:

> Theoretically ... polygamy is OK. But must ikut hukum Allah lah. There are conditions.

> Ya, but… actually, kan, for career women like us, it does work. Nak jaga laki 24 jam … gue tak larat la. Biar bini nombor satu jaga. After all, in Islam, polygamous wives are taken care of legally. Better a Muslim second wife than a common law wife.

> But really. Think about it. Convenient, what. You see him once a week,makan once a week, have sex once a week...

> Sex once a week?! Baik tak yah jadi bini nombor dua macam tu! Chit. Once a week mana cukup?!

Why do men cheat? Again, just an observation dwelled upon by friends and myself. For a lot of polygamous men, they marry good women who fit their criteria of holiness, wifeliness and motherhood.

Intimacy between the men and their wives are perfunctory. It’s make-the-baby-cover-the-face sex. With their girlfriends and second wives, it’s Penthouse all the way, baby. It’s the soul thing.

At least this is what I got from talking to quite a number of married men. It’s not because of the first wives’ lack of trying; they want to have healthy intimate lives, but the bees in their husbands’s bonnets keep reminding the men of the Madonna-Whore syndrome.

Malaysia is not a place for single women desiring Hollywood-movie type of marriages and love. KL especially is a city for marriages and affairs. And it has nothing to do with money. There are rich men who cheat, and I know of a despatch boy who has two wives!

There are many single-again women like my friends and I, who still believe in marriage and love. But I can tell you, should we walk down that path again one day, we’re going down it with our eyes open and keep a part of our hearts to ourselves. Because you never know.

Perhaps my friend, an activist who makes a living entering and staying in war zones, is right.

“We have women like you, me, your mother, your aunt and friend who fight so hard for women and children and yet face a brick wall, simply because we ‘understand’ so much, and forgive all the time, which is why cheating, affairs and polygamy are rampant, to the detriment or contribution (depends how you look at it) of our well-being,” says my friend.

Another friend, Sharizal Sharaani, put it succinctly: “Men (and, yes, women too) cheat because they can. Full stop.”

The writer still believes in love and marriage and wants to move to Corfu.

Dato' Sri Azalina Othman

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Is it a BLUFF ??

All the poker player out there.. so you think it is a bluff or for real.. 16 September 2008.

Interesting right?

p/s : Non poker player and retired poker player are also welcome to give their views.

More links down the memory lane...

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WHILE WE ARE HERE

DEAR FRIENDS

LOTS OF SMILES, LOTS OF LAUGHS, LOTS OF EMOTIONS!!!

JUST SHARE THOSE SMILES, LAUGHS AND EMOTIONS WHILE WE ARE HERE!!!

Flight of Geese

Have your ever wonder why the geese fly in "V" formation?

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Zaid may be made full-blown Law Minister

KUALA LUMPUR: De facto law minister Datuk Zaid Ibrahim may soon become a full-blown Law Minister with all the requisite authority and responsibility to help him effect legal reform.

“When we talk about reform, people think about the Judicial Appointments Commission only, but it is more than that -- there is a whole gamut of things that needs to be done as well.

“It is for this reason I have informed the Prime Minister, and Cabinet has agreed that there are reforms we need to take.

“In fact, my own position will be reviewed to Minister of Law to give me more authority but that will take time. You can’t have responsibility without authority,” he said Tuesday during a press conference after he officiated at Suhakam’s Human Rights Day public forum themed “Human Rights and Administration of Juvenile Justice” at a hotel here.

“When you want to effect change you need to coordinate and re-organise. For example, if you want magistrates to be re-trained today I can’t do much about it. I will have to go to the Judicial and Legal Commission.

“If I want to do anything involving children, I will have to talk to the Women and Family Development Minister.

“The difference between the past and now is that hopefully I will have more opportunity to bring change.”

Referring to a former President of the Court of Appeal who had referred to the minister with his portfolio in 2000 as being “in charge of table and chairs,” Zaid added:

“If I can’t do something I will say so. I hope with more refined authority, with an elevated position, a clearly defined portfolio and authority, perhaps I will help overcome some of the problems encountered.”

Source: The Star

PDC lodges report against Ahmad and former company

BALIK PULAU: The Penang Development Corporation (PDC) has lodged reports with the police and Anti-Corruption Agency (ACA) over alleged misappropriation of funds involving former senator Datuk Ahmad Ismailand the now-defunct company Popular Profile Sdn Bhd (PPSB).

PDC legal adviser Zainun Abdul Rahman made the police report at the Bayan Lepas police station on Wednesday.

Zainun, who spent more than four hours at the station, was escorted out by a police officer and only spoke briefly to the press.

“I am here acting on the instructions of the Chief Minister who is also the PDC chairman,” she said.

She declined to divulge details of the report but said that most people had already “read about it (the case) in the newspaper”.

When contacted, PDC general manager Datuk Rosli Jaafar also confirmed that an ACA complaint had been made on Wednesday afternoon.

“We are leaving it up to the police and ACA to investigate the matter,” he said.

State deputy police chief Senior Asst Comm (I) Datuk Salleh Mat Rasid confirmed a police report had been lodged but declined to elaborate as investigations were pending.

On Tuesday, Chief Minister Lim Guan Eng said the state would lodge a police report and ACA complaint over a RM500,000 loss of state funds in a 1997 PDC land deal in Bukit Minyak.

He said the deal had fallen through after PPSB, of which Ahmad was then a director, had failed to come up with the purchase price of RM5.5mil.

Half of the down payment or RM554,000 was returned to the company while the other half was confiscated by PDC.

Lim said PPSB had failed to transfer the money to deal financer Perbadanan Usahawan Nasional Bhd who was holding the land title which resulted in PDC having to fork out an additional RM500,000 to regain the rights.

PPSB wound up in 2005 and Ahmad, who is currently under investigation for allegedly uttering seditious racists remarks, is believed to have broken off all affiliation with the company in 1998.

By ANDREA FILMER

 Source : The Star Wednesday September 3, 2008

Kow, Sheah battle for state Youth seat

PETALING JAYA: Two Selangor MCA division youth chiefs – Sheah Kok Fah and Dr Kow Cheong Wei – look set to battle it out for the state Youth chief post this Saturday .

Sheah, who is Petaling Jaya Selatan Youth chairman, said 21 of the 22 divisions in the state were backing him for the post of state Youth chief.

“After a few rounds of negotiation with 21 of the 22 divisions in the state, the movement has reached a consensus for the candidates for all the posts in the state Youth committee,” he said.

However, his opponent Dr Kow, who is Puchong Youth chief, is not giving up despite what looks like a near-impossible task, saying he's been in this position before.

“Three years ago, I became the only candidate who was not mentioned in the line-up to win the state Youth secretary post.

“I am confident that history will repeat itself with the hard work I have put in all these years, by going to the ground and understanding the needs of the party grassroots,” he said.

Dr Kow defeated his opponent Datuk Theng Bok by a majority of 275 votes in the state election three years ago.

Sheah, when announcing the line-up at a dinner recently, said the group supported incumbent Selangor MCA Youth vice-chairman Ching Eu Boon to contest for the wing’s deputy chairman post.

“For the four vice-chairmen, we suggested Petaling Jaya Youth chief Lee You Hin, Ampang Youth chief Tan Kok Hor, Kapar Youth chief Lee Chee Chun and Kuala Selangor Youth chief Low Ah Keong,” he said.

The dinner was attended by 21 state division Youth chiefs and their supporters.

According to the list, Kuala Langat Youth chief Tew Boon Chin was to be the secretary with Selayang deputy Youth chief Chan Wun Hoong as deputy secretary.

The group also proposed Kota Raja Youth chief Looi Eng Wah for the treasurer post and Subang Youth chief Ng Kok Kiang as auditor.

Source : The Star

Re-establishing Frienship and Networking

It has been a while.. (about 20 years) since most of us meet, not until some of you initiated something that make the last gathering on 30th August 2008 possible. I must admit, it was a noble effort to get in touch and really appreciate the effort.

I've been requested to start something, a website or a blog to keep the group together, so here we are... Creating a blog is easy but to keep it going will be a challenge. Eventually, I'll make everybody as moderator so that everybody can post and contribute to keep the blog going.

You can start of by replying in the comment, leaving your e-mail address and contact and obviously by extending this blog address to our colleague Class of 1984-88.

Hopefully, sesiapa yang ambil gambar masa gathering tu pon can upload the pictures somewhere (www.picasa.google.com or www.photobucket.com) and share the link with us.

Selamat Menyambut Hari Kemerdekaan and for muslims friends "Selamat Menjalani Ramadhan"

Catch up later.



ZULKIFLEE MOHD SALLEH








p/s : Thila, the CD that you passed to me was a blank CD. I'm not sure who has created it, but hopefully I can get hold of a copy to be uploaded here or she can upload the clip on youtube and share the link with us..